Attraction
This article by Kate Harding of Shapely Prose is absolutely brilliant. Why? Because her honesty is so clear and unmistakable that it has the potency to jab any latent thought. . . about Attraction. We have been smitten by the idea that “beauty” is a singular ideal. This may be part effect of the mass media machine, fed by those who buy into it. But beauty is not. Beauty and Attraction are not what you think they are. Beauty and Attraction are to each person a new thing each time. Who we find attractive is not for our neighbor; we are all individuals.
Attraction is subjective. And it irritates the living fuck out of me that this culture tries so hard to divide people into categories of “attractive” and “unattractive,” as if individual preferences don’t even exist–when in fact, individual preferences (conscious and unconscious) are at the core of attraction as it plays out in the real world.
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